Stacy McCrory, MA, LMFT

Peacemaker, grief tender & founder of Cooperative Co-parenting Solutions and TwoCan Retreats, as well as Clinical Advisor/Regional Director for the Waves of Grief Collective™, I hold space for individuals, couples and families going through major life transitions. I specialize in the areas of divorce, co-parenting and blended families as well as trauma, grief and loss. I assist clients with improving communication, reducing conflict and creating healthy boundaries; provide support and guidance through psycho-education and coaching, and empower clients to heal themselves using mindfulness, self-compassion and EMDR therapy.

For over 25 years, I’ve served as a treatment provider, administrator and client advocate in both public and non-profit mental health settings (inpatient, outpatient, institutional, forensic), and in private practice. I’ve spent much of my career in clinical and supervisory roles, serving marginalized and underserved populations in the community mental health field, including advocacy, oversight and development for adult and juvenile mental health programs, as well as consultation on topics related to divorce and co-parenting, grief and loss, abuse and trauma and women in leadership.

I opened my practice in early 2005 to help families reduce conflict and minimize the negative effects of separation and divorce. After many years of training and experience with children and adolescents, I became a Certified Divorce Mediator, Collaborative Divorce Coach and Child Specialist, with a special focus on high-conflict co-parenting, including parent-child contact problems, or resist/refuse dynamics. I was a longstanding member of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC), The International Academy of Collaborative Divorce Professionals (IACP) and Collaborative Practice, California (CP-Cal), made up of interdisciplinary professionals dedicated to improving the lives of children and their families through the resolution of family conflict.

In 2021, I pursued more specialized training in mindfulness and self-compassion, grief and loss, psychedelic-assisted therapy, and conscious dying, becoming an end-of life doula, and studying with Francis Weller and other soul activists throughout 2023 and 2024. I’m a member of the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization’s (NHPCO) End-of-Life Doula Council, and volunteer my time as a doula with Dying in Grace in Santa Barbara, in order to be of service, expand my awareness and deepen my understanding of life, death and the sacred journey that lies ahead for us all.

Some of my most rewarding work has been facilitating transformational retreats in Costa Rica with my husband through the business we founded in 2019, TwoCan Retreats. At home in Santa Barbara, we enjoy co-facilitating community Waves of Grief™ circles at the beach in proud partnership with the acclaimed Waves of Grief Collective™ and hosting regular potlucks with friends and singing around the fire.

Grief is a constant teacher, and I am a curious and insatiable student. It’s a great honor to walk alongside people grieving and/or anticipating loss. I hope one conversation will lead to others, that communities will become more fluent in the language of grief and loss, and more and more people will feel better equipped to cope with the inevitable.

My own losses have been my greatest opportunities for learning about grief and I’ve moved through my own journey, largely by immersing myself in nature — ocean play, beach walks, sunsets, hikes and waterfalls, and by being in community. Singing and dancing at weekly gatherings became my church. Movement, mindfulness practices and spending intentional time with family, friends and my beloved fur babies is essential to my own self-care.

Some of my most important and rewarding work has been facilitating transformational retreats in Costa Rica with my husband. At home in Santa Barbara, we enjoy co-facilitating community Waves of Grief™ circles at the beach in proud partnership with the acclaimed Waves of Grief Collective™ and hosting regular potlucks with friends, singing together around the fire.

A mother, stepmother, grandmother, parent educator and former childcare provider, I’ve dedicated my life to enriching the lives of children. I’m a firm believer in the healing power of community, interconnectedness and acts of loving kindness, believing that compassion, grace, gratitude and genuine respect for the planet and all beings can indeed make the world a more loving and peaceful place. My friends and family would tell you I work hard, enjoy life and love with all my heart.

NOTE: It is important to note that although Stacy hosts and facilitates retreats for TwoCan Retreats, she is not providing therapy at any time during the retreat. Stacy either creates or collaborates in the development of all TwoCan Retreats retreats and activities.